It is an honor for a man to keep aloof from strife, but every fool will be quarreling.
Proverbs 20:3 ESV
When we hear quarreling, we often want to get involved and repair the damaging relationship, whether it is our fight or not. How often, however, have we seen someone, often our husbands, kick back and watch an argument unfold, jumping in only when tempers flare to the point of escalating volume or potential violence? I have watched astonished as my husband allowed our teenage boys to spar verbally with one another, only to step when at the critical point to de-escalate the happenings. Remember the expression “not my monkey, not my fight?” The boys are his monkeys, but it is not his fight. I, however, am in there trying to stop them, or siding with one and then the other, or mad myself because of the disharmony or frustrations the verbal match is causing. *sigh* Are you as challenged as I am to stop being a fool? I pray to behave honorably the next time those around me are itching for a fight.